Like I said, people make funny choices. Some people have that kink. Yes, a baby deserves a stable loving and happy relationship to be brought into. Also, you told him to not cum inside you however you can get pregnant even without him cumming inside you. I have been talking to a man, who lives abroad, for over two years now. He's started to talk about how if I got pregnant, he'd marry me and we'd keep the baby.
He isn't talking to me now, but he has booked his flight for early next month. This has been going on for about a month, and I'm completely weirded out and stopped having penetrative sex with him the third time the birth control argument went down. Get settled with everything first for the sake of the future child. Wonder what triggered that change? Keep track of your sex frequency during those times, especially if he is asking you about your cycle. This man has said many times that he was going to marry me.
I enjoy reading your column. It sounds like you love each other a lot. He even cancelled his flight. If he sees you as a means to an end i. Or at least check them before he enters you. Have you ever mentioned to this guy you want to have a baby? He has promised to come see me for about five times now but is always changing his mind. I told him that I don't see me living that kind of life.
It's definitely a red flag that he wouldn't talk to you about having a baby before trying to get you pregnant, he just completely disrespected you and had no consideration for you by doing something like that. What he did shows he has absolutely none of them and isn't ready to be a husband or father. How long have you been together? It sounds like you barely know this guy. I'm not trying to be a killjoy here, I'm just hoping that you're going to make sure it's what you both truly want before you make such a major commitment. A guy who doesn't respect your reproductive freedom is unlikely to respect you in any way. And at late 20s and he is still not financially secure? Am I just being paranoid? He is disappointed because he wants to come to Jamaica and get me pregnant. Education, and a career, are far more important, than getting pregnant to bind some boy to you! A female reader, , writes 30 April 2012 : sounds odd.
And because he is male, they always know they can walk away even if their partner gets pregnant because it is not them carrying the baby. After you have a child it is no longer all about you. But I think this is an understandable mistake. I guess I didn't want to talk about it and didn't want him to feel like just a rebound. To add my perspective, I personally am about the age range of your boyfriend and have an impregnation fetish. Lately he's been showing strong signs that he wants a baby, putting pics of him and his nephew up on his profile pic and recently a little baby saying how cute it was. If you had an open, casual relationship in the beginning, I don't think this is the kind of issue a guy will go nuclear over.
They know, if worse comes to worst, they can walk away, never see the child and only have to pay a little bit of money in support. Explain to him exactly what you didn't tell him about your ex, and explain why you lied. We had so much fun together, had sex all of the time, went everywhere together, he made me feel amazing about myself and told me that he loved me so much. I really love him, and we are even planning on marriage. Also, please help on how to tell him. An abuser will cut you off from family and friends—your support system. About the same time he started talking about what we'd do in case of an accident, he's gotten a lot more lax with condom use, and gets annoyed if I insist he uses one, and doesn't like to wait for me to put in my diaphragm.
In the mean time, my wife has gradually become accustomed to me asking to get her pregnant. He sounds like he's affected by some insecurity. And he knows i dont like abortion. If he can't handle the commitment of a relationship, he likely won't be able to handle being a father. Yes, I think he is obsessing a little about you getting pregnant and that he thinks it would be a good idea for you. I think I'm going to wait, but I want others opinions.
We have yet to meet in person. We were in love for three years and unofficially engaged, and it took me awhile to get over him. Just think about all the things you couldn't possibly know about this guy after just two months — from his past relationships and family to his long-term stability, mental or otherwise — and consider how you might fill in some of those gaps. Do you want to have kids with this man? Dont let this guy ruin your future. He might not like it, but he has to respect your feelings and not pressure you like this any more. Too soon, enjoy your life. He loves the idea of getting me pregnant, he even falls asleep while holding my lower tummy.
He's not the one who stands to get pregnant. He is 30 and I am 25. I had been thinking of this awhile back but I was somewhat mixed due to financial and all of that. The thing is, it's your responsibilty too. Let the man stay where he is. Luckily we aren't having sex yet but have discussed this such as not using protection though will probably wait until marriage. Does he want to trap you? Do not encourage him to come to Jamaica! You love him, so much that when you see him, he will turn you into butter, and you would not even remember to use a condom because your head gone already.