Then again, if you live in a penthouse and your rent is only 10% of your salary - it is not much to you but holy crap, you need someone to polish your shoes etc. Bottomline is that you can never force anyone to do anything they do not want to do, they will only run away more if you push them. If it ever does come to this, and it does happen all too often, its going to be an uphill battle to prove it was a loan and not a gift. His adultery was her fault! Ooh, I am sorry, major mistakes. If you do nothing, you get nothing. Very difficult way to learn a lesson. Now, you have to actually collect.
Most times the defendant your bf doesn't even show up, you get a Default Judgment and you are all set. People who found this post inaccurate: I am so frustrated, I loaned money to an ex boyfriend and it was money I got from a settlement from being in a motorcycle accident and I am still having a hard time finding work, it was money that was supposed to help me get back on my feet, he kept borrowing and borrowing now its almost all gone, I trusted him, and now he moved to Utah, I have talked to him and he still continues to say he will pay me back. Whether you can collect or not is the issue, it is up to you to collect, even though the judge issues you a judgment against your ex. I actually broke up with him because he wouldn't pay me back. We reserve the right to decline representation in any case. It would be a good idea to discuss your situation in detail with an attorney. Take my ex for example…he owed 9 years of back child support to his mistress whom he had a affair with while married to his 1st wife.
If he defaults, apply for a court order, then a writ. Seeing the lights on in her flat and imagine what happens their with her new man, killing me every day. However, you would need evidence proving that he did indeed know this was a loan and not a gift. I was out of work due to surgery recently and ended up having no income at all. My exboyfriend an I split up a couple of years ago but we are still good friends and are still very close.
As I sat there doodling hateful words on the court document, his logic became clear. He'd criticize me for withholding whatever emotional assurance he felt he deserved, and if I didn't express my love to a degree that met his satisfaction—casually kissing him on the cheek instead of the lips, for example—he'd threaten to leave the country. I have a friend whose narcissist husband purposely let their house get foreclosed while he stashed money in hidden bank accounts and claimed he was broke. Tell him she will take a certain amount per week or come knocking when he gets paid. No you didn't start your own.
Everything you said, i can relate to and agree with. You do have legal means to recover the money even without a written agreement or promissory not. I asked him last week where the money was and he said he didn't pay it. I am just curious, I know the phone calls and texts are hoovering, but is paying bills that are past due also a way of hoovering, since he had previously changed his direct deposit and stopped putting money in our account? Think, if this is how they felt then why did they do what they did in the 1st place? When we broke up I wanted to stll have sex with her. The letter was from the Civil Court of the City of New York. So I was delighted several months ago when I received an official-looking letter.
That may honestly have been all he was after. I had to wait until I was well enough to order everything from the internet and have it delivered! As others have said, it almost seems that if one could live without the money, it might be more heartache and trouble than it's actually worth to go through with pursuing the matter in court. Little babies and little boys do. More Anyone can sue anyone else for anything. Also take witnesses, if anyone was present when he said he would pay you back. When i realized i had lost all that, i cried, cried, and cried.
I can't believe how many guys are out there like this! If they do pay, it is almost always because their wages are garnished, and when that happens, they feel entitled to something. They just do not understand the basics of integrity and honoring commitments because all they can think of is their own personal gain and pleasure. She have the full right to do that. No information contained herein should be construed as a solicitation for business, an offer to perform legal services in any jurisdiction in which the attorneys of Corbin Law Office are not licensed, or the dissemination of legal advice. You should not rely on this response in taking or forgoing action in your circumstances without discussing this matter with an attorney. I told him that I would never want to see the friends of his who did not respect my marriage.
So I keep it al inside of me. I am not your attorney unless you and I have signed a retainer agreement. I'd paid for an equal share of our flights, meals, tickets, taxis, and drinks under the assumption that we were a normal, you-get-dinner-I'll-get-the-movie duo. I kept the bank statement of the transaction and I have text messages to confirm our agreement. How much money is it? A garnishment order might be insufficient to cover your monthly payments, depending upon his income and the amount of your payments. Do you really think the courts care? He got abusive over it! If you truly believe your safety is at risk, you should contact the police, though this is completely separate from the debt.
Our response to your question does not create any attorney-client relationship between us, and we are not acting as your attorney. She told me before she will do and she have to go on with her life. So, let's say you do that and win a judgment. I think there should be a class on it so we can avoid it because the narcissists will never realize it in themselves anyway. It is not your fault and it is also because obviously you were frustrated with him since he did not love you the way you loved him and he never changed after open communication but he was never emottionally available to you.